Understanding the Mother Wound - Happy as a Mother

Understanding the Mother Wound

with Author Bethany Webster

As mothers, the connection with our mother is typically the foundation of our relationship with ourselves. To form our own sense of self, as a young child we internalize deeply, even into our brain chemistry, so much about who our mother is as a person. A lot of this is unconsciously inherited from one generation to the next including pain which is referred to as the Mother Wound. This wound can become particularly noticeable when you become a mother and are constantly reflecting on your own experience while also mothering. It typically shows up as shame, comparison, guilt, and feeling like you must remain small and not rock the boat to be loved. We first have to understand where these feelings come from before we can begin to heal. In this episode, Bethany and I discuss what the mother wound is, ways the mother wound shows up, and how we can find our inner mother.

Bethany Webster is a writer, international speaker and transformational coach. She started blogging in 2013 about the Mother Wound and quickly experienced worldwide demand for her work. Through blending research on intergenerational trauma, feminist theory, and psychology with her own personal story, Bethany’s work is the result of decades of research and her own journey of healing. Bethany speaks, consults and mentors around the world sharing her growing body of work that is raising the standard of women’s leadership and personal development. Learn more at www.bethanywebster.com


  • What the mother wound is
  • The causes of the mother wound
  • How to cultivate our inner mother
  • The difference between the father wound and the mother wound  
  • Societal and cultural messages that have an impact





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  1. Karna says:

    I love Bethany’s work! Thank you for this episode – so helpful!

  2. Hallelujah we need to normalize this in the mothering journey. Look within yourself is this really who you are. Don’t have fear to ask for help get therapy meditate and do much shadow work. Bearing a child is proven to change a mother brain and postpartum only hinders a woman’s emotions not being able to trust herself have control of herself or accept herself. We need to normalize this in all cultures white culture, Mexican culture, black, Indian, Asian. This is what it is to be human, this is how well learn to grow with our little souls. Regardless religion, God already sent us the most perfect human being don’t feed him/her your unhealthy traits learn to recognize and end this generational curse. Meditation, turn to God, fix your chakras, heal yourself

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